Lisa Lane

Mother-in-Law



Posted: Sunday, March 15, 2009

by Lisa Lane
http://www.koi-pond-guide.com

How is it that before the phone calls were never ending? Babysitters were nonexistent, or if they were the guilt game had to be played. Baby mamas weren't around to take kids, only to cause drama. One on One time was scarce but now it's endless. No more guilt trips are played, no more calling ambulances, and the kids are only sick when he is here and not there. It is funny how things change. It is also funny how some people don't care what is best for another as long as they have what they want (which is him to be there and not here.) How is it grandma didn't want anything to do with the kids when they are with me but as soon as I'm gone you jump right in to take my place? When before it was to much for you, you weren't able to watch them all so we could go to a movie or dinner. What game is this one now? I'll do everything for you now so you will stay. Please don't take my roll of mommy away. How sickening I hope I am never that needy.

Was I that bad of a person? Were you scared I was taking your place? I could never do that. All I wanted was just a little, he has plenty but your endless guilt games sucked him dry. You didn't even care if you left any for the other kids just as long as there wasn't enough for me. And you knew he would use the rest on the other kids before me anyway (which is expected).He is only one person, one person can only give so much. So I am not asking for anything from him anymore so he will have more to give to YOU. I love him so much I am willing to set him free, free from the bonds you put him in as soon as he left your side. The bonds that were constantly weighing him down, pulling him down and tugging him down. Only to have him as miserable as you are. Maybe now you will give him his freedom. Maybe you will now love him enough to let him be happy. But I only think that will happen as long as the only female he ever loves is you. Well You won you won. I give up, I give him back to you I can't stand to see him suffer anymore. And with me he was suffering because the only time you will give him peace is when he is with you!

Do you have an overbearing Mother-in-law?

If you do I will give you some pointers of how to handle the situation. After writing this (which I never gave to her) my fiance and I got back together so I decided if we are going to be together I will have to change my attitude toward his mother. She will always be in his life that's a fact and it's also a fact that she will not change so instead of trying to get her to change I changed instead. I stopped letting it bother me that she called so much, I asked myself why did it bother me so bad for her to call? I learned that I have been being selfish. I don't need to dominate his time. I have to make it OK to be with me just me and not have to have someone else to fulfill my needs that I am able to do that myself. I noticed that the more I released my aggression to her and stopped trying to fight her and her ways the more she stopped trying to dominate him. We are only able to change ourselves it is when we try to change others that we become stuck or frustrated. My fiance and I are getting along better now too. There is peace in our relationship that wasn't there before. So just remember if you want things to change around you the first thing you have to change is yourself.

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» left by Connor Davidson
 3 years 66 days ago.
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Great article. Well done.
 
A man who hated his mother-in-law got three wishes from a genie.
 
Genie: "Whatever you wish for, your mother-in-law gets DOUBLE."
 
First wish: "I would like one billion dollars."
 
Genie: "Ok but mom get's two billion."
 
Second wish: "I would like an island off the coast of Greece."
 
Genie: "OK but mom get's two islands."
 
Third wish: " I would like you to beat me half to death."
 
Sorry, I could not resist.
» left by Lisa Lane 2 years 315 days ago.
I love that comment It is great. 
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